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December 30, 2025
Midlife Divorce: The Facts, The Finances, and The Fallout with Jenny Hutt
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Divorce rates for people over 50 have doubled since the 1990s, and women are initiating the majority of them. What's really driving this shift? In this episode of unPAUSED, Dr. Mary Claire Haver sits down with family law attorney and broadcaster Jenny Hutt to discuss the facts, finances, and fallout of midlife divorce.

Jenny Hutt is a family law attorney specializing in divorce and mediation in New York, and she spent two decades as a broadcaster on SiriusXM. She's one of Dr. Haver's earliest supporters, and she brings both personal experience and professional insight to this conversation about a controversial topic relating to women's health: the connection between menopause and divorce.

Dr. Haver and Jenny start with the facts: the statistics behind gray divorce, why women are initiating most of them, and what's really happening beyond the oversimplification of "dry vagina" causing divorces. They discuss feeling unsupported, undervalued, and reaching a breaking point after years of caregiving. They also dive into finances: what every woman should know about her money, whether she's thinking about divorce or not, the three things to do if you're considering divorce, the difference between mediation and legal representation, how to protect inheritance, and the details around a postnuptial agreement. They also address the financial reality that women's household income drops 41% on average after divorce, compared to 23% for men. Finally, they explore the fallout: the stress on the sandwich generation of caring for aging parents while raising children, how trauma strains marriages, rebuilding identity after a long marriage, the shame women feel, and why the other side of divorce can bring unexpected peace and freedom.

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Chapters

00:00 — “Dry Vagina” — and What’s Really Behind Midlife Divorce
01:41 — Why This Topic Goes Viral: Menopause, Clarity & Big Life Decisions
03:57 — Superpowers: Translating Medicine + Losing the People-Pleasing Chip
05:08 — Jenny’s Story: Law → Broadcasting → Back to Divorce Law
09:19 — Mediation vs. Divorce Lawyers: What Each One Does
10:54 — Gray Divorce Stats + The Backlash to “Untreated Menopause” Talk
16:48 — Sponsor Break: Therapy Support + Menopause Care
23:11 — Before You File: Don’t Burn It Down—Know Your Financial Reality
34:20 — Sandwich Generation Stress, Grief, Shame & Rebuilding After Divorce
49:47 — Humor, Healing & Takeaways + How to Find the Right Attorney

About the guest

Jenny Hutt

Jennifer Hutt (Jenny) is a dedicated family law attorney with a unique background that blends law, media, and deep human connection. She began her legal career in full-time practice but later balanced part-time legal work while raising her children, always maintaining her active license and continuing her legal education.

In between practicing law and returning to it, Jenny had a fulfilling broadcast career, spending nearly two decades hosting her Just Jenny show on SiriusXM. There, she connected with women across the country, sharing conversations about life’s challenges and the universal human experience. After leaving SiriusXM, she launched the Just Jenny podcast, which she continues to host, keeping those meaningful connections alive.

Over a year ago, Jenny became certified in divorce mediation, further strengthening her ability to guide individuals through difficult transitions. Now serving as Of Counsel at Wisselman Harounian Family Law, she feels truly aligned in both mind and heart. Her experiences in law, media, and mediation have all led her to this moment—where she combines legal expertise, deep empathy, and a passion for empowering clients to build better futures.